Chiyanov Viktor Fedorovich - your psychotherapist

An alarming suspicious character of a person and with subsequent more serious consequences. Viktor Fedorovich, here I want us to focus on this very topic, because many parents are faced with the fact that the child is really afraid - afraid to go to kindergarten, afraid of the appearance of some new people who suddenly suddenly, perhaps, appear in his life and many, many, many things are afraid. What is the reason for this? Here I want you to maybe explain for those parents who really face this problem, it's kind of
is genetically embedded in the child already, or is it connected with some, maybe I don't know, birth injuries that a woman received at the birth of a child, or maybe someone intimidates the child at home?? It says that, you know, it happens that here you are, for example, if you do something like that now, some kind of babaika will come and they will punish you, take you away, and so on... Very whole legends, and therefore parents really 
and therefore parents really, here, one gets the impression that the child is afraid of everything, is it so? The fact is that
they use intimidation at such an age as such an educational technique, and in general, in principle, it is impossible, because we ourselves form this alarming suspicious character, then the child will always look around, fear, no matter what happens. Naturally, the fear itself and the defensive reaction. An event happened - the child reacted and forgot, but if we repeat these situations somehow for the purpose of upbringing or simply do not pay attention and do not eliminate the factor that affects the formation of fear in some way,
then, naturally, the child will already form not just fear, but the so-called phobia, which will already be stable and decisive for the rest of the child's life, so fears must be taken very seriously. It's good what to do for young parents who cannot cope.
If, if parents see that fear is constant, long-lasting, there are not some two or three hours there, but a month, two, three or six months, then this is the same clinical form of fear and we need to be exposed, eliminate this fear.
because the child develops and certain abilities develop, the brain develops, communication skills, skills, thinking itself, speech are formed, and if fear prevails over all this, then all this will be constrained, all the development of the child will be delayed. Viktor Fedorovich, how can you explain the observed literally for several children? Until the age of 1, the child is not afraid of anything, as they say, he literally climbs the hill with his head, plays with children and anything, and the second child is just afraid to approach the water, is afraid to
climb a hill, and even mom, perhaps, has to, on the contrary, somehow encourage him to overcome, but this is what? I just ask again, but it all depends on the character, temperament of this or that 
and this is what? I ask again, as it were, but it all depends on the character, temperament of this or that child and on the other hand, this child, who, as I said in the first case, is not afraid of anything, is there a danger, too, that he, in general, will fall into some unpleasant story?

Here we have such a phenomenon as general mental development, mental development of a child, that is, a smart child, he suggests the possibility of some
negative action from some event or phenomenon whose child does not quite, as they say, far-sighted, he cannot always calculate the consequences of his actions and does not assume not to assume at all, that it could be some action, give it some negative, well, there, pain, for example, or some other reaction, then he is not afraid, that is, there is a concept of fear reaction. The reaction of fear is the reaction of phobias, which is a disease, so he is a child, he, he wants to come up like that, feel, look.
The reaction of fear is the reaction of phobias, which is a disease, so he is a child, he, he wants to approach, feel, look, and then he will do something. He,
his intelligence, well, suggests, but to be careful and yet here's the fear. Fear of fear is different, let's say, then, it seems to me that fear still carries some positive moments, because a person who is absolutely not afraid of anything, in this case we are talking about a child, in this, too, in general, there is nothing good. He must have some kind of sense of danger, and so on, in order for some kind of sense of self-preservation, let's say, there are still some positive aspects in this concept of "fear," of course, this
revolutionary. Are you not only students in a person of reaction, any animals that allow you to mobilize at a certain moment and solve this or that problem, but since a person is also a social being, then, of course, fears can be not only vital, then 
that is, which is ensured by the existence of it as a living organism, but fear can also stimulate its development as a social being, for example, the fear of losing a job allows a person to grow professionally, allow when you need to cross the valley and look, that is,
let's say the fear of losing some weight in society, and so on allows a person to do some actions useful to society, and so on, that is, we see that fear as a reaction to an alleged event allows a person to correctly, adequately plan their life actions, set some kind of goals and ways to achieve them. When there is no fear, a person goes to rob a bank, of course, well, it is clear that sooner or later we will come across, he does not sleep at night, this is how it works, and the impact is antisocial, of course it's too early for you or
whether it will die late or we will shoot, it will hit him a lot, people, that is, in this case, this fear does not work for her. Let's go back to the kids and talk a little more about childhood fears, 
Viktor Fedorovich, this is often the most often such a case, which I would like to give as an example now and when I was preparing for the program I read that many mothers call him or, say, write to the site and say: Here the child is afraid to go to kindergarten, take him to kindergarten - this is a whole problem, begins to cry, he can hardly go there
deliver. This is a kindergarten, it is closed and does not communicate with any of the children and you only when you pick up from kindergarten, it kind of calms down, like this until the next time. What to do here - not to take him to kindergarten at all, leave him at home? And if there is no such opportunity? Or so that he is still officially prepared, because then he has to go to school and I think it is worth finding out what he is afraid of? In children's, specifically, what happens, real, here they left the child suddenly
brought to kindergarten, and in the new environment, of course, knows nothing and is afraid of some events, here, and he, maybe, is.

Any fear is accompanied by a complex complex of reactions from our autonomic nervous system and enters the body in
habit. Anyone who is even remotely familiar with the basics of Freudian psychology, at least at the level of jokes, knows that most adult complexes are from childhood. "Fears of adults - psychological causes of chronic diseases" - this is the second theme of our program. So, the fear of adults, it turns out, these fears that we experienced in childhood, they then come into adulthood and turn into some kind of chronic diseases. This has already been proven, this is already, in general, confirmed by many doctors = psychotherapists. Viktor Fedorovich, how to stop this mechanism so that really those fears that children experience, then did not come into adulthood and did not cause really serious diseases? The fact is that if we do not eliminate stuttering in a child, this is what I said: a certain type of character is formed, it is called anxious when a person also expects some negative reactions in life, he does not expect anything good, he is determined that all events will bring and bring only a negative impact and, of course, he is personally less active in social terms, it is difficult for him to communicate with people, it is difficult for him to find a job, it is difficult for him to communicate with people - and with peers, and even more difficult with strangers, as if older. Sorry, even in addition: the fear of even meeting a girl naturally, this is a fear, well, besides, there were no such examples when a student fears. The student could not agree on a retake, as a result he left the institute. After only a course of treatment, he said: I will be glad, I will go, recover, and I will behave differently, that is, the inability to cope with fears on my own. Do not care that a person becomes less effective in this life and in all directions - both social and personal, and as far as physical condition is concerned, 
and as for the physical condition you talked about, is that reason fear? The cause of vegetative-vascular dystonia is fear. It can be the cause of hypertension, and then, in the end, ischemic. Other diseases, what happens in the body? This, obviously, is some kind of fears give some kind of clamps, but this is where the vessels are narrowing now. Discomfort, the fear reaction gives such phenomena as heartbeat, pressure rise, rapid breathing, in addition, it all goes, is accompanied and is a consequence of emissions of adrenaline, norepinephrine, that is, fear hormones that mobilize the body. Well, if this is a single phenomenon or a rare phenomenon, then it does not represent anything dangerous, but if a person is in constant tension, that is, we see a constantly increased level of these fear hormones, when a person is waiting for some negative events, this phenomenon "anxiety" is called when a person is waiting for some uncertain events, about he doesn't know exactly about it, but to find out that there is nothing good in this life, that is, in all cases, as it were, he has some kind of fear that there is something in the clothes upon arrival, here is one type of reaction - negative, and this overvoltage of compensatory mechanisms leads to the fact that vascular tone breaks down. These pressure surges are, of course, increased from dystonia to hypertension, when the next stage can only be increased pressure. Here is an ischemic disease, because constant overstrain leads to the fact that there is a violation of not only vascular tone in the form of spasms, but also metabolic processes, when the vascular wall is disturbed, atherosclerotic ones are formed in some way. Viktor Fedorovich, can you cure adults from such a phenomenon? Fear? Actually, this is real, it is possible, and this makes his age constantly, and people with these fears constantly come. About half of my patients are people who feel fear, for example. Yes, here you can, here 
As I understand it, this ritual action is it is believed that if he does not do this action, trouble awaits him outside the door, you know? Some negative events. You can fasten your shirt, unfasten your socks several times - he took it off several times, then when he got ready, he can turn around his left shoulder three times, for example, open the door, accelerate and jump over the threshold, if he does not run up and jump over the threshold, he will not go further, but these are already some of this difficult ritual actions. Let's, when I saw for the first time, he was autistic, he didn't understand the impression that you were telling him, he was in such a state of shock, and it was even difficult to think that he could be treated somehow here, in general psychology he was inaccessible, then the first impression is that a person is sick with schizophrenia. In fact, it was not so, no, I cured him, I needed more than 40 sessions, it was a very difficult job, he was very difficult to enter hypnosis, in the end 
it was a very difficult job, it was very difficult to enter hypnosis, in the end at a certain stage we entered very deep stages of hypnosis. I worked with him, filmed these lines in parts, first one there, all these intrusive ones went, the school went to school through the cemetery, he must go from a low corner to school. He came, looked at one point, did not understand anything and did not want to know anything. What I came to Odessa, I think, was nevertheless influenced by this event that he suffered, and the fact that an example that a person had no future, at the age of 14, any inexperienced doctor could diagnose him with a "mental illness" and treat him completely wrong. Victor, we now will not try healthy he wants with girls, but now smokes cigarettes. Fear that destroys a person, so you need to see a doctor who can do it without medication, but fear, say, for mom's child. I am afraid for the child, here she went to school, now she is gone for a long time, she begins to get nervous,
begins to wind himself up, invent in 
come up with all sorts of the worst stories in his head, he has something spinning there, here's how to get rid of it? But this is an alarming state, also psychotherapeutic, that is, we will say that for each age there are actual fears or alarming states on them. Alarming reactions, so when a person becomes a father, a mother, naturally, caring for his children can, I think, the mother of this person, this woman was also worried about her, it was transmitted like this, thus to another child.
Naturally, the fact is that a mother and a child up to a certain age, I think, are 5-6 years old - this is a very close relationship, more tog, about there is such a thing as innate nervousness. If the mother suffered fear during pregnancy, the child will be born nervous, that is, he already has these nervous reactions of fear, he has already felt at the hormonal level on himself, so he is born already with a predisposition to some fears, depression, and so on... 
Therefore, sometimes even here is a pregnant woman who suffered, it is necessary to treat that is, during this

period, one might say, psychological, here both for a woman and for an unborn child. Well, and we continue the topic: "Fears of children and adults" I want to refer to the opinion of the American psychologist Tomenko: "Sudden complete releases from prolonged and intense fear activate joy, while partial release from fear causes excitement." "The help of a psychotherapist in overcoming fears" - this is the third theme of our program. You know, we kind of have a little time left on the third topic, but let's have phone calls from the audience, as if answering these phone calls, and devote just to this topic. "How can a therapist help?" - here's the next question. "How to protect a child so that he does not.. - ah, I understand. "How to protect a child so that he does not become afraid to go to school in general" - somehow this is how the question sounds. But if there is already fear, then this child

But if there is already fear, then this child will be afraid not only to go to school and somewhere else, everything new for this child will pose some danger, and if this reaction is stable and long-lasting, then you just need to conduct psychotherapeutic sessions, that's all, and this is real, because the sooner, the easier it will be for a person to get rid of fear and develop normally. "How to get rid of shyness? The child is 7 years old, "asks Sergei Petrovich. How to get rid of shyness for a child of 7 years old? I think a person is shy, because he expects, as it were, a wrong or not quite adequate assessment of his actions. The same thing, all these phenomena are amenable to psychotherapeutic correction, here because the psychotherapeutic correction itself here leads the psyche into a state of balance, and, secondly, resistance to stress, so any new event is stress. If we make a child resistant to stress, then he easily overcomes, that is, he is already here, having overcome one

that is, he is already here, having overcome stress once, he will be able to overcome 2 and 3, that is, he already has a feeling that he can do something in this life, I understood the note that I was given first. No, I didn't understand what was written, now I'll voice it once more, because now it became clear to me what the TV viewer means - the mother of a 3rd grade student. "How do you protect a child from being a scapegoat in class?" - this is how the question sounds, but I think that there should be a whole complex here, not only psychotherapy. In psychotherapy, maybe the initial stage, and then the child must be trained, that is, he needs to develop confidence with some special psychological exercises, it can be in the house, or it can be somewhere in training, that is, he must be in a team, he must be placed in a team where he will be treated kindly, so find such a team - it can be by interests, it can be sport, it can be some kind of hobby there, and so yes 
but to leave him in the team, where he has already been identified to him in this place, I think it is not worth it. But my phone is 735 52 48, there is no office, I go specifically at the request of the house to the sick, and advise. We have literally half a minute left, what do you have to add to what we were talking about now? Maybe there are some wishes for those viewers who want to call you and tell you about the problems that are today? My point is that fear surrounds anyone from birth to death. Another thing is that how we treat this fear, if for some reason we have allowed or failed to resist, and fear, it captures our consciousness, and here if you feel that you are no longer able to fight your fears or this struggle is painful, long-term nature and it is difficult to assume that in the near future you will cope, then it is necessary immediately
contact a psychotherapist because I have an example of adults who seem to have already become 
or this struggle is painful, long-lasting and it is difficult to assume that in the near future you will cope, then it is necessary immediately
to go to a psychotherapist because I have an example of adults, who seem to have already become sea captains, because almost conversations are available and he comes to me on twitter, still I will not send there again to enter the roaring forties, how I looked after I coped but it's already clear to me, well, what kind of person has recovered, and is still swimming. I thank you for the conversation, unfortunately, our time is over. Viktor Fedorovich, thank you for coming to our studio, thank you for raising such important and complex topics, and well?
I wish you health so that you can help yourself and help these people who turn to you. Let's probably live without fear, this is the most important wish. Well, in addition to what has been said, I would like to repeat what psychotherapists advise not to eradicate children's fears, but to learn to react correctly to them. Even in ancient times, it was believed that the best means of dealing with fear was laughter. There was even a belief that children's laughter can expel evil spirits, so we want children to laugh often in the house, and for successful treatment of anxiety, the desire of patients and, of course, the help of a qualified psychotherapist is necessary. Today the guest of the "School Master Class" program was Viktor Fedorovich Chiyanov, good luck, see you!
 

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